Welcome to the March 2004 newsletter. It's a late one this month - and a short one! - as I have been finalising my book The EFT Coach. This will be the ultimate "EFT and Coaching" handbook (see last month's issue for excerpts) and should be available as an ebook before the end of March and as a paperback in April.

Coaching with Eagles in Bangalore
Or - which rabbit do you want to chase?

My mother has recently returned from a trip to a missionary college near Bangalore, India. After a wonderful trip she related how the school principal of the college "coaches" people who come to him with their problems and dilemmas. He says "Go to the library and look at the picture of the eagle". Confused, his students go to the library and look at the picture hanging there.

Over the picture it says "Focus". In front of the eagle there are two rabbits. And under the picture it says: "The eagle who chases two rabbits catches neither".
When the student returns, the principal asks them: "Which rabbit do you want to chase?".

It's all too easy to try and go after more than one major goal in life. Often we try, with the very best of intentions - because we are trying to live up to the expectations of others - or because we have our own internal "shoulds" and "musts".

In our "do more, have more" culture, we make the mistake of thinking that multiplying our goals means multiplying our achievement - and therefore our fulfilment and happiness. At the Coaches Training Institute they teach that to say Yes to something means saying No to something else. This is exactly the same as choosing which rabbit to chase - and which to let go.

Very often, simply asking the question "Which rabbit do you want?" is enough to clarify our thoughts. If there are still lingering doubts, you might try some EFT to help release what's in the way of choosing your rabbit.

Upcoming events

Sunday 4th April 2004 - Introduction to EFT
See workshops page on website for details.
 

Woodbridge Holistic Health Fayre.
17th and 18th April 2004.
Woodbridge Community Hall, Woodbridge, Suffolk.
I will be offering 20 minute taster sessions and will be giving a talk and demonstration.

Client leaves food on plate!
How EFT helped one client to lose her compulsion to "clear the plate"

I've been working recently with a client on weight loss issues. One issue she identified was that she felt compelled to finish what was on her plate, even when she knew she was no longer hungry. She remembered being strongly encouraged not to waste food when she was a child, due to "the starving children in Africa". She said the idea of leaving food on the plate seemed very "odd". We did a few rounds of EFT on different aspects of this issue including: 
      "Even though leaving food seems odd,...".  
She emailed me the next week saying:

"I went to lunch with a colleague today for a catchup and also to discuss a report she was writing.

Anyway – I realised afterwards I had pushed my plate to the other side of the table with some food still on it and carried on the discussion for a good 45 mins without a thought about it!

It was only when I went to put my tray away that I realised there was still food left on the plate.  Admittedly I had put quite a lot on to start with but I’m sure that before our work together I would have eaten it all regardless.

This is probably what most people do all the time but it’s new to me!"

Gary's Corner

Gary Craig, the originator of EFT maintains an excellent website packed with real case histories. Each month I select case histories that really show the power and range of EFT.

This month:

Dr Carol Look's compulsive eating and weight loss protocol

A series of suggestions for dealing with weight loss issues by a specialist in weight loss and EFT.

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